Thursday, February 16, 2012

F.S. ~ Conversation

"Good day, Miss Smith, and how is your mother? Is she much recovered from her infirmity?"
"Good day, Miss Brown, she is most recovered. Thank you for your inquiry and for the recommendation of Dr. Jones. Are you and your family in good health?"
"In the best of health. Shall we have the pleasure of you dining with us at Manor Hall tomorrow?"
"Until then. Good day, Miss Smith!"
"Good day to you, Miss Brown."

The vocabulary of polite conversation may have changed a bit from the time of Victorian England, but the patterns and art of conversation have changed very little {at least down here in the south}.

How do you start a conversation? How do you keep it going? Are you a little shy, or are you the type of person who never meets a stranger? Is conversation awkward for you or something you enjoy? Regardless if you are Chatty Cathy or a timid mouse, the key to good conversation is this: ask questions. 

Questions can be your secret tool to help people feel relaxed in your company, and you the same. Questions can lead to all sorts of conversations that can sometimes create friendships. Many of us know basic questions such as, how are you, how is your family, or how has the weather been, but these subjects usually are quickly answered, especially when someone is shy. Before you indulge in conversation with someone you don't know very well, think of "fun" questions to ask. Also, be open to conversing about subjects of which you know very little. Here are a few questions you can use to help you and others feel at ease.

  • Do you have any siblings? How many?
  • Do you have any favorite hobbies?
  • Have you read any good books or watched any great movies lately?
  • Have you always lived in this state?
  • Do you have any plans to travel soon?
  • Have you ever been out of the country?
  • Do you have a favorite food or restaurant?

These are only a few examples of the millions of questions you could ask as conversation starters. Always consider the person with whom you are talking as to what type of questions you will ask. Depending on the person depends on the question; for example, it's not appropriate to ask an adult her age, but it's fine when the person is young or a child. An older gentleman might enjoy a question like, have you ever been out of the country or what is your occupation, but not, how many siblings do you have. Being thoughtful of a few simple rules of etiquette can alleviate many awkward moments!

If you are faced with subjects you know nothing about, then don't air yourself to be a know-it-all. You can, however, show a sincere interest and a learning spirit. Asking to know more about subjects will help you become a well-rounded person and display a heart that puts others higher than yourself. Being friendly usually ushers in good conversation. The danger of being "shy" around others can leave your character a mystery to them. They might assume you are conceited or self-centered. As you get to know a person better, the more your questions will pertain to subjects you both enjoy and your meetings will be ones you look forward to!


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    1. Hi Heidi!
      Thank you so much for your sweet words! You seem to be a very delightful young lady! Remember that everyone at some point feels nerves when learning the art of conversation. It is wise to think before we speak; just remember we've all said something rather silly in our lives. Maybe fumbled over some words... I do it ALL the time!

      We are so glad you are encouraged by Silk and Purple! Our prayer is that you and girls like you will become deeply rooted in Christ and shine His ever glowing light!


      P.S. So sorry, silly blogger ate your comment. Don't hesitate to keep commenting in the future, or re-post if you would like. Comments like yours keep us going :)

  2. (Found Via Email and Re-posted by Abby)
    Hi Abby and the team,
    I’m Heidi-Mari (I’m 14) and I have recently found your blog and it’s lovely!!
    I enjoy your posts a lot and look forward to many more. I’m reading all the old ones now. This post is really great and helpful to me. I happen to be very shy when meeting strangers :( I really try working on it, but just don’t know what to say. When my mother talks it seems like the words just flow out of her mouth! Thanks for the tip I’ll try it!
    Have a blessed week

  3. Is that part taken from North and South?
    The British version of course!

    1. Haha! No, but now that you mention it does sound a lot like a scene from North and South! :)