Monday, October 29, 2012

Why Mothers Matter

If there's one thing about me worth knowing, it's that I love my mom. She's smart, funny, and one of the only people I know who could handle raising two teenage girls and two boys aged one and seven. I think of her as a friend to confide in and a godly example to live by. But unfortunately, a lot of young girls don't like or appreciate their mothers as much as they need to.

Now I know what you might be thinking. "This isn't Mother's Day. Why is she talking about moms?" Well, I know this sounds kind of weird, but I feel like this is a subject God's been calling me to write about. It saddens me to see girls arguing with their moms in public or to hear friends of mine complain about their moms when it's obvious that they don't realize their moms are trying to protect them. I'm not saying that I have a perfect relationship with my mother; nobody does. We have our share of disagreements just like any other mother and daughter, but she's always there for me.

She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many woman do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Proverbs 31:26-31

 The main point of this post is that mothers are some of the most noble, loving, and loyal people on earth. They never leave your side no matter what, because that's the way God made them. They provide not only their children, but everyone around them, with a sense of true and never-fleeting beauty unlike any other. But most of all, they teach us to be the godly women we were made to be. All that I am I owe to my mom and all the other women in my life. And if God blesses me with children when I am grown, I hope I can be half the mother to them that my mom has been to me.
So don't take your mom for granted, because you may not always have her. And don't forget to let all the other beautiful women in your life know how much you love them. Because whether or not you realize it, they care a lot about you. If you and your mom are arguing about something right now, just let her know you want to stop. Every minute you spend upset with each other is one less that you could have spent being happy and enjoying your special relationship. Enjoy your mom, and let her enjoy you. It's one of the best relationships you can have.


By the way, love you, Mama! ;)


  1. Wonderful post Hope! I couldn't agree more.
    My mom is my best friend, and has taught me so much about what it is to be a godly woman. I would not be what I am today without my mother. I love you so much Mom!

  2. What happen if my mum isn't a godly woman and she's not behaving appropriately? As much as I want to share a close and loving relationship with her, I cant get past the hurt that she has caused and can't bring myself to love her. I choose to forgive, but still can't face her as if nothing has happened.

    1. Oh Anonymous, I truly wish this was never a question we would have to live out, that mothers and daughters would always grow a special relationship with each other. But we are all dealing with the big problem of a sinful world with sinful people hurting one another. I don't know you or your mother personally, and I don't know where the hurt began, but I can read in your comment a longing and a deep hurt. Forgiveness really doesn't come easy. We know as Christians that we should forgive, but oftentimes I must remind myself when the root of bitterness seems sweet to my soul that God once called me His enemy. Before Christ did a work in my life, I hated God and yet He still forgave me and welcomed me as His child. My prayer is you have received this wonderful grace and pardon from our Creator as well.

      If you are a Christ follower, then you are called to a unique ministry to your mother. The Lord might be using you as His light to her. Being a light doesn't mean it will be easy. It is imperative to have a support system in your life. Godly friends, mentors, and pastors who you can be transparent with and they can encourage you on days when that bitterness wants to creep in. Ask the Lord to help you find people who will pray for you and your mother. Also seek out an older godly woman who may be willing to mentor you as a mother would.

      I will be praying for you! Know that the Lord can mend the broken hearts, He can restore relationships, He will always be faithful. Feel free to email me anytime if you need encouragement.

      "...let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven" (Matthew 5:16)

  3. I love you too Hope! (Mama):)