Thursday, April 19, 2012

What does He think?

A girl stands before the mirror for the hundredth time and thinks to herself...

"What will he think about this outfit?"

Don't deny it! I'm guessing you've contemplated the same thing, too. I'll raise my hand and be the first to admit that it's passed through my mind. Most women grapple with selecting apparel that can bring approval and attention from men, but I'm going to say something that might shock you.

It's okay to think this. In fact, you should think this.

Now, please don't leave the blog and remove your following of Silk and Purple. Let's flesh this statement out. It may be good to reflect on these thoughts in front of our mirrors, but we might be thinking about the wrong he or how we should want the he's in our lives to think about us. Being secure in the fact that a woman is created to complete a man is an important foundation.

 "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 
Genesis 2:18

We have a deep-rooted desire within us to be attractive to man because the Lord created us to be the completion of him. We are not complete without man and vice versa. Man and woman's unity is a beautiful picture of Christ and His church.

So who are the he's in our lives at this point? Dads, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, pastors, elders, teachers, and friends. Later the Lord might bless us with a husband and sons! As we talked about in a previous post, we have a big responsibility to help the he's in our lives now, and the ones yet to come, with regards to promoting purity. God places all the he's in our lives for a beautiful reason. We may not know why, but we can trust His sovereignty and be a wonderful blessing to the men around us.

Asking what he will think about my outfit is important, but maybe we should expand the one question into two:

What does HE think about this outfit?
How will it affect the other he's in my life?

Our ultimate goal should be what the ultimate He thinks of how we dress. God is our He who calls us to be holy as He is holy. When we strive to please Him, then we have success!

The second he we should think about when we stand in front of our mirrors is our father. Fathers are placed in our lives by God to be our leaders until marriage. Our dads want to protect us, and they want to make sure all the other he's in the world know that we are treasure and not trash. If we are striving to please Christ first, our fathers second, we find that attaining the goal of purity practiced is a great deal easier. Dressing to make guys lust after us is a sin and is no way to train our hearts to be committed to our future husbands.

Whenever I do think of the other he's in my life when selecting apparel, I evaluate how I want to be perceived.

  • Does this outfit promote purity? 
  • Will a young man desire to protect me rather than fight lustful ambition?
  • Do I exemplify a woman who is of high worth?
  • Am I cultivating a noble reputation or one of wily character? 

So I will continue to evaluate the way I am dressing, and I hope you will join me in asking, What does HE, our Lord and Savior, think?


  1. I love this! Great thoughts.

  2. This is a very good post. It really gets you to thinking.

    Thanks for sharing this!

  3. Thank you so much for this! It's spot on! I needed the reminder. :)