Tuesday, February 5, 2013

F.S. ~ A Wedding Guest

Everyone most likely will have the privilege of being a guest at a wedding. As with all other events, there are etiquette tips to guide us to make the occasion more pleasant for us and all those we're around.

1. Remember to R.S.V.P. as soon as possible by the method outlined in the invitation. See my earlier post, R.S.V.P.
2. Find out from the invitation what the dress code is. The time of the wedding should indicate to you how formal it will be.
3. Girls should not wear white to the wedding or even ivory or off-white. The bride is supposed to stand out in white. It is also best not to look like one of the bridesmaids. If you know what color and style they are wearing, steer away from that.
4. Arrive for the ceremony at least twenty minutes early. Thirty minutes is best. If you arrive after the doors have been closed, seat yourself quietly in the back (left side = bride's side, right side = groom's side). If the ceremony has already begun, wait until the bride has reached the altar and then seat yourself quietly in the back.
5. Do not just go to the reception and not the ceremony. If it is only possible for you to make it to the reception, that is okay, but you have been invited because the couple wants to share their wedding with you.
6. If you are able to, stay until after the cake has been cut. You do not want it to look like you came for the free food and then left.
7. Follow the couple's lead when the dancing begins.
8. If you are not a fan of the bouquet or garter toss, just stand quietly in the back and smile.
9. When you leave, find a member of the family and thank them.


  1. Thanks for posting - these are really helpful. I have a quick question. Could you give more information about what times of the day for a wedding are considered more formal than others? You mentioned that in the post but didn't elaborate. Thanks!

  2. Excellent question! Watch for the next Finishing School post for a helpful guide and answer to your question!